20 Questions

1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?YesNo
2. Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?YesNo
3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking? YesNo
4. Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking, to please you?YesNo
5. Do you blame the drinker's behavior on his or her companions?YesNo
6. Are plans frequently upset, or cancelled, or meals delayed because of the drinker? YesNo
7. Do you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you"?YesNo
8. Do you secretly try to smell the drinker's breath?YesNo
9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?YesNo
10. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behaviour?YesNo
11. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking? YesNo
12. Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?YesNo
13. Do you search for hidden alcohol?YesNo
14. Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?YesNo
15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?YesNo
16. Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to control the drinker?YesNo
17. Do you think that, if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?YesNo
18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?YesNo
19. Do you feel angry, confused or depressed most of the time?YesNo
20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?YesNo

If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, you may find help in Al-Anon or Alateen.