20 Questions

1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?	Yes	No
2. Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?	Yes	No
3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking?	Yes	No
4. Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking, to please you?	Yes	No
5. Do you blame the drinker's behavior on his or her companions?	Yes	No
6. Are plans frequently upset, or cancelled, or meals delayed because of the drinker?	Yes	No
7. Do you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you"?	Yes	No
8. Do you secretly try to smell the drinker's breath?	Yes	No
9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?	Yes	No
10. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behaviour?	Yes	No
11. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?	Yes	No
12. Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?	Yes	No
13. Do you search for hidden alcohol?	Yes	No
14. Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?	Yes	No
15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?	Yes	No
16. Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to control the drinker?	Yes	No
17. Do you think that, if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?	Yes	No
18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?	Yes	No
19. Do you feel angry, confused or depressed most of the time?	Yes	No
20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?	Yes	No

If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, you may find help in Al-Anon or Alateen.